Okay, let’s say that you have finally garnered enough courage to pop the big question to the woman in your life, possibly with one knee bend. So and so, will you marry me, you ask – and to your amazement, she almost jumps up with excitement, and tells you ‘yes of course.’ If you are the one being described, and even if the acceptance from the other party was less enthusiastic, chances are that you the next thing in your mind will be to buy an engagement ring and present it to the lady in question – as a reminder to her, and to other men who might be having intentions about her as well, that you have already ‘booked’ her, and you are only waiting to tie the knot with her.
Now as you head out to buy an engagement ring to celebrate this stage of your relationship, there are a number of important things you will need to keep in mind.
One of the most important things people going out to buy engagement rings are advised to keep in mind all the while is their ladies’ preferences, with common advice in this regard being to let those preferences to be the chief guiding factor in their shopping. This is to avoid the unfortunate situation where a man buys a woman an engagement ring, only for her to take it hesitatingly or to reject it outright if she is the ‘tougher’ variety of woman.
The idea is to get her something that is in line with her sense of style – so that if your woman is the contemporary variety that looks down on classic things, getting her a classic ring (which might cost you quite a bit) could see her still unhappy with it, not because it a bad ring per se, but because it is simply out of sync with whom she is. Ideally going together with your woman to buy engagement rings would be the best way to go about it, but it often turns out that if you want the ring to be a surprise to her, this would obviously be a good way to ’spoil the fun’ – hence the reason why most men find themselves having to second guess their loved ones.
Another thing men going shopping to buy engagement rings are advised to keep in mind is the need to look beyond the money in their shopping – that is, not to let money be the main guiding factor in their shopping. The danger in letting money be the only guiding factor when shopping for engagement rings is that, for instance, if you are just keen to get your woman an ‘expensive’ ring, and nothing beyond that, you could end up paying a lot of money for a ring that offers no extra value to justify the extra money that you have to pay for it, yet you pay that much for it just because you wanted an ‘expensive’ ring.
Finally, the third thing that men going to buy engagement rings are advised to keep in mind is the reason as to why they are buying the ring (is it to impress the woman more, is it to just to celebrate that milestone in their relationship…and so on), and then start their shopping with end in mind, so that when all is said and done, they don’t end up with a ring that turns out to be out of sync with what they were trying to achieve through it, a situation which unfortunately too many men find themselves in.
